It is not the situation or circumstances or people that you are faced with, that really make who you are, it is your reaction to them. My relationship with my ex did not work out simply because she was carrying bags and baggage of her past situation/circumstances and all kinds of abuses that people melted to her while growing up, that even when I tried to help her in letting go of all the worries and troubles, she mistrusted me. She became so self-centered, selfish and greedy and I was heartbroken because she took my love for granted.
I thought I was a good guy- No side cut, always home on time, no clubbing kind of guy and yet…. While I was almost concluding that, it was her past situations/circumstances and the people she had encountered before meeting me beclouded her sense of reasoning, I met another lady who changed my perception. She was just a friend. I really liked her but we never dated. She was a close confidant and I provoked her with my experiences into sharing hers with me. She was so detailed and very graphical in sharing her past escapades with men. The lady had a very good upbringing and from a good family background but she went gaga! She informed me that, it was her choice, she wanted to have fun. Luckily for her, there was no casualty unlike my ex and her parent did not get to know about it. Today, she has repented and she is happily married.
I believed her when she said it was her choice, not situation or circumstances or people. To confirm her belief, I met yet another lady. Oh! Becky (That is not her real name) you made an impression in my heart that I will never forget. She lost her dad when she was a kid and her mother re-married shortly after the death of her father. She did not get to know about her true parent until when she started working in a bank. Her guardians concealed it from her until she was of age. She made second class upper honors from a well known university in Nigeria. She was a lover of the Word of God. She fasted regularly and she was a prayerful lady. She was a committed believer, a sacrificial giver and always willing to do what was right. As at the time I met her, she told me she was a virgin. I believed her.
I make bold to say, it is the choices you make in life that make you. The situation, circumstances or the people that you have encountered are only the back drop or background that you must confront, overcome and overtake. Today, I have risen above my mine and I have some proofs to show for it. If I can, you too can by God’s grace.
